5 ideas to honor your fertility journey on Mother’s Day.

Mother's Day is a time of unintentional hurt and big feelings for many reasons. If you're grieving loss and longing for a baby, my thoughts are with you. I'm so glad you found this page and are here. And if you're struggling with infertility or loss, I encourage you to honor your feelings and your needs on Mother's Day and every day.

So just for you, here are 5 Ideas For Coping with Infertility and Loss.

#1

Create a vigil.

Create a comforting space at home or outside by arranging items that symbolize hope or represent the child(ren) you're longing for. Spend some time reflecting on your emotions and expressing them to your partner (if applicable) or yourself. Consider burning a candle to honor losses you've experienced along the way or symbolize hope. Add other items as you see fit: flowers, leaves, stones, pictures, notes, baby items. Whatever feels right to you is welcome.

#2

Honor the good in life.

It's tempting to give a lot of time, energy, and attention to what you don't have - that's normal! Take stock of what feels lovely and life-giving too. Think of it as balancing or offsetting, not getting rid of the hard stuff. If you like a certain spot in nature, go there. If you have a favorite book, reread it. If you adore a specific restaurant treat yourself. Remember, you are so much more than your reproductive outcomes and life is always a mix of good and bad. Always.

#3

Grow something.

Visit a garden center (ideally not on Mother's Day) and purchase something to grow. As you plant the seeds, or tree, or flowerpot, etc, say a few words to acknowledge your hopes and dreams for the future, your loss, or both. Consider writing a letter to tear up and put in the soil under the plant too. Remind yourself that the soil / earth isn't burdened by your feelings and can be a wonderful source of steadiness. My Finding Your Roots meditation explores this idea even more.

#4

Try a walking meditation and mindfulness.

Take a walk and allow yourself to express your feelings out loud. Pro Tip: Put on your earbuds if you're worried about looking like you're talking to yourself! Once you've outwardly expressed some feelings, shift to quiet and your focus to the present moment. Take three cleansing breaths. Then take in the sights, sounds, and sensations around you. Go through each sense. Use describing words to notice even more. See how releasing and landing in the present moment feels.

#5

Do what feels right.

Above all, be kind to yourself and do what feels right for you. That will look different from person to person. Whether that means staying home, going out, having a good cry, laughing to a silly movie, being alone, or surrounding yourself with others, honor your emotions and take care of yourself. It's okay to prioritize what you need without apology or explanation. Find others who "get" and support that.

I've got some great additional resources to further explore so see my links below. And thanks for trusting me with your tender heart - especially right now.

XO,

Nicole

Nicole Lange

LICENSED ACUPUNCTURIST
HOLISTIC FERTILITY EDUCATOR