FERTILITY PANIC ATTACK - AN INFERTILITY GUIDED MEDITATION

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If you’re TTC, newly pregnant and feeling anxious, or having a panic attack, I’m glad you found this SOS guided meditation.

Sometimes infertility, and pregnancy after infertility, feels too intense to sit with. The overwhelm of the unknown. The über triggering lack-of-control. The desperate desire to get out of limbo and far, far, away from taxing treatments and cycles.

I once had a person tell me that she felt so trapped in IVF that she imagined herself like a rat trapped in a cage. She said she felt like she was ready to chew her arm off to escape. And although she may have expressed it the most evocatively, she’s definitely not the only person to feel this way. Lots of other client, friends, and family have shared similar desperation with me over the years. I’ve even shared her words and they vigorously nod their heads and exclaim, “Yes! That’s EXACTLY it Nicole!”

Thankfully — for this woman and for everyone TTC — there’s another way! She didn’t have to choose between hating her life or stopping trying to conceive. My big-picture ideas and education helped her shift and see that she could keep going with IVF in a way that felt good. But only if she really wanted to — which she did — and in a way that felt good.

After NINE failed IVFs including three with donor eggs and over five early losses, her next two transfers resulted in two healthy pregnancies. Aaaaand — and this is BIG — she went through them without feeling like a rat in a trap. She even started to actually feel good.

I promise, there is another way through the fertility conveyer belt. And it really works. There are loads of resources here for you to learn all about it. I’ll put some of my favorites places I recommend starting to make that shift at the end of this post.

What this fertility panic meditation will do.

So right now, you need an S.O.S. level reset. Let’s do it! If you haven’t already, press play and take just six minutes to calm your mind and your body. You can’t think about anything when you’re in panic mode. Here’s what this fertility and pregnancy panic meditation will do.

1. Bring you back to the here and now.

Infertility anxiety and panic are often caused by past and future thoughts, and catastrophic thinking. Things like, “If only…” or “What if…”. Founder of Taoism, and author of the Tao-Te-Ching, Lao Tzu said, “When you’re anxious you’re in the future. When you’re depressed you’re in the past. And when you’re at peace you’re in the moment.”

Pressing play on this meditation will help you come back to the moment. By coming back to the here and now, and back to concrete things like body and breath awareness in active and engaged ways — not vague and “chill” — you can start to get grounded. Because, let’s be honest. Infertility anxiety is not the time to try to down-shift directly into “chill.” That’s just not gonna happen.

2. Work with the physical parts of infertility panic.

Right now, one of two things is happening. 1) Either your mind found something real or imagined that’s massively freaking it out — and your body is 100% getting the memo and launching into fight or flight mode. Or 2) your body somehow jumped directly into fight or flight disregulation and your mind is trying to figure out what the heck is going on.

I worked with an amazing woman who had panic attacks so severe that she had called 911 several times in the year after her newborn son had died. She couldn’t be convinced she wasn’t having a heart attack. It felt so real. And it was real. It just wasn’t a heart attack, it was physical panic.

In either of the above scenarios, your body is fully in fight-or-flight mode when it’s in panic mode — neuro-chemicals surge and loads of physiological changes happen. Breathing becomes shallow and rapid. Chest feels tight. Heart pounds. Adrenaline pumps. And if you try to keep going about your day or — maybe even worse — tell your brain to knock it off without working with where your body is at? It’s absolutely rotten.

That’s why this meditation walks you through a process that will harness and channel your fight-or-flight physical changes happening in your body and help them release so they can organically reset. Once the physical changes reset, it’s way easier to get your mind to follow. You’ll see — it works!

3. Allow you to move forward in a thoughtful way.

Once you physically get out of panic mode, then you can go on with your day or move your mind into other relaxing reframes. Maybe you don’t know why you panicked — you just did. Try moving into another meditation or some acupressure for physical fertility freakouts.

Maybe you saw some spotting and it sent you into a spiral. Try some acupressure for a calm uterus or come back to my online videos that explain spotting in pregnancy.

Maybe you’re approaching a big pregnancy test or ultrasound. You can regroup and then channel your deep desire to control something into taking a lesson or online course about working with what you do control — which is actually a ton! Pregnant or not, you’ll use all of these layers going forward, in all sorts of fabulous ways.

So give the meditation a try.

It all starts with pressing play and taking the necessary time to work with your panic. I’m really glad you’re here. I’m grateful and honored to be on your team. It won’t always feel like this. But for now, it’s real. Let’s honor and work with it.

With love,

Nicole

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• VIDEO TRANSCRIPT

  SOS Fertility / Pregnancy Panic - Guided Meditation

  by Nicole Lange

  If you are unsafe, please tell someone and seek emergency help right away.

  Please do not listen to this meditation if you are not in a safe place to close your eyes and fully relax.

  I’m so glad you pressed play on this meditation.

  Right now you are feeling overwhelmed. Maybe there are too many unknowns. Maybe things feel too intense. That’s okay, just listen to my voice and I’ll guide you through one moment at a time.

  On the count of three, I want you to tighten every muscle you possibly can and hold that tension for a count of three.

  Ready? In 3, 2, 1.

  Tighten your body. And hold for 1, 2, 3.

  And fully release.

  Let’s do that once more

  In 3, 2, 1.

  Tighten your body. And hold for 1, 2, 3.

  And release. Soften as much as you can. You’re doing it.

  This time, let’s hold a little longer. Let’s hold for 5. Starting In 3, 2, 1.

  Tighten every part of your body from your head to your toes. And hold for 1, 2, 3, 4, and 5.

  And now melt into a release.

  Remember to breathe. There’s no need to change your breath, just do what feels natural.

  And let’s go into one more clench and release. Again in 3, 2, 1. Tighten your whole body, and hold, hold, hold, hold, hold.

  And release.

  And breathe.

  When you tighten and release your body it mimics fighting or running away and then relaxing once the threat is over. It channels your anxiety and allows your whole body to engage.

  As the tension releases it tells your nervous system and every part of your body and mind that you are safe. You fought or you ran away. You are safe. Now you can relax.

  Let’s try it again. In 3, 2, 1. Tighten and hold, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. And release.

  Are you starting to feel more settled? Maybe your body is feeling heavy. Breathe and enjoy any shift that’s happening. You can repeat this exercise as often as you need.

  If you aren’t in a place to fully tense and release, just try your hands or feet. And then come back to your breath.

  Remember, every moment and every breath is moving you forward. It won’t always be as hard as it is right now. But as cliche as it is, there’s no way through, but through.

  So use tools like this to keep coming back to reset and work with the intensity. You’re doing it.

  Now the music will play out. If you’re still feeling tense, Do a few more repetitions of tightening and releasing or start this meditation over.

  If you’re starting to feel more settled just sit with your breath. Let your body feel heavy.

  Come back any time.

  I’m so glad you pressed play.